I am a stay-at-home-mommy (SAHM), and it is the happiest thing I have ever done.
Do you believe me? A year ago, I wouldn’t have. In fact, a month ago, I don’t think I would have believed me.
I am an educated woman, and yes, I am a Registered Nurse, but most importantly, I am a mom. Currently, I’m keeping my eyes peeled and ears open for “per diem” nursing positions, so I can have the flexibility to work as much or as little as I want… but simply for the experience and of course, the paycheck. I figure if something comes up and it feels right, I will look into it, but I’m not going to stress over it, because I know this is where I am supposed to be.
In October 2012, we knew we were going to start our family the following year, in 2013. Since then, I knew I was going to be a stay-at-home-mom. It literally started with a dream I had one night, and strong feelings about this decision when I woke up. Even up until now, I have had extremely consistent, and strong impressions about this decision. This was NOT an easy road to take, because I had ‘my plan’ of what life would be like, and this was definitely not it. So I had a little ‘identity crisis,’ because I thought I knew exactly how things would work out, how many years I would work, etc. But now I know this is my path at this particular time in my life.
I realize many people look down on my decision to “waste my degree” (yes, people have said that.) But frankly, I think they are wrong, and ignorant. I am not “wasting” anything.
- First of all, when it comes to my family, nothing is a “waste.”
- Second, I am constantly using my knowledge for my family as well as in my community. Constantly.
- And third, when the time comes that I am ready to begin working full-time, I will. I will always have that option. Work will always be there. But Samuel won’t be little forever, and my family is my priority.
This is a sacrifice we were willing to make as a family, and Kasen was, of course, wonderful enough to support whatever decision I chose, whether it was to work or stay at home. By living off one income we lose out on some “luxuries” in life. We aren’t rich, we can’t buy whatever we want, whenever we want, and we still live in an apartment for now. But we absolutely have more than we even ‘need’ and I’m happy to live this simple life so I can be here to take care of our Sam. It’s a blessing and a privilege.
Here is a little blurb from one of my favorite blog posts about a man’s opinion(s) on SAHM’s:
It’s true — being a mom isn’t a “job.” A job is something you do for part of the day and then stop doing. You get a paycheck. You have unions and benefits and break rooms. I’ve had many jobs; it’s nothing spectacular or mystical. I don’t quite understand why we’ve elevated “the workforce” to this hallowed status. Where do we get our idea of it? The Communist Manifesto? Having a job is necessary for some — it is for me — but it isn’t liberating or empowering. Whatever your job is — you are expendable. You are a number. You are a calculation. You are a servant. You can be replaced, and you will be replaced eventually. Am I being harsh? No, I’m being someone who has a job. I’m being real.
If your mother quit her role as mother, entire lives would be turned upside down; society would suffer greatly. The ripples of that tragedy would be felt for generations. If she quit her job as a computer analyst, she’d be replaced in four days and nobody would care. Same goes for you and me. We have freedom and power in the home, not the office…
Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined.
Yes, she is just a mother. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, “Hey, it’s just the sun.”
Here is the link to the full post.
Here is another link to a favorite short video on how amazing moms are, whether they work inside or outside the home!
Of course, not all women can (or want to) be at home with their children, and that works for them. These are personal decisions! All I’m saying is I shouldn’t be knocked down for mine.
My mom is a nurse, and has been for over 30 years, but had the opportunity to stay at home with the first three kids, after which, she decided it was her time to return to the workforce. That worked for her. I know mothers who work full-time, or attend school full-time and that is what is best for their families. That is their path. That does not make them any more or less important than anyone.
I saw this on Facebook and found it very fitting:
It’s already been quite the experience with Sam in these short three weeks. I get peed on an awful lot. Today, I was projectile pooped on during a diaper change. I get his spit up in my freshly washed hair. My shirts are constantly covered in breast milk because of my messy little eater. But despite the grossness of it all, this is the most rewarding thing I have ever done.
I love laying next to Sam and cuddling him. I love staring at him. I love holding him, and playing with him. I love comforting him. I love talking to him. I love seeing his crazy, adorable smile. I love everything about being his mom, and staying at home with him. Thus far, motherhood has been tiring and incredibly messy, but it is one of the greatest things I have ever been a part of.